Controlling Your Fear of Public Speaking
To persuade, a speaker must talk effortlessly with courage and confidence. When dread or timidity becomes evident, an audience loses confidence in a speaker’s ability to persuade. Observably, if he cannot hegemony himself how can he hope to persuade others?
The dread of public speaking is common to most people around the world. It is very often one of the top three fears of people in surveys. Though, stage fright must be cultured since people have only two natural fears at birth: the dread of falling and dread of loud noise. As stage fright has been cultured it is impracticable to hegemony and overcome the edginess.
The common fears linked with public speaking are:
- Dread of the unknown – new situations can be frightening. Dredge up the first time you were questioned on a date or questioned for one, or when you first started to drive.
- Dread of rejection – the feeling that the speech may be either criticised behind your back or openly.
- Dread of failure or making a mistake – you may forget part of your speech or mispronounce a word etc
Now we know what the fears are and that they were cultured, how do you hegemony them? Here are 8 techniques to use overcoming the edginess;
1. Emerson’s quote “Do the thing you dread and the death of dread is certain” is right. George Bernard Shaw suffered from stage fright and overcame his dread by speaking at every chance. Make many small speeches as this is far more helpful in overcoming dread than delivering only a few long ones.
2. Have an attitude that, “I’m giving them my best. I hope that’s excellent enough. At this point I couldn’t do better. And if someone is despondent with my speech, so what? Lacking worrying a second about any speech I’ve already delivered I’m going to place all my energy into the next speech.”
3. Mentally play down the importance of his speech. Who is going to dredge up it a hundred years later anyway?
4. Learn to smile at an audience and go right on speaking when you make a mistake, people will forget the mistake and dredge up the smile. A mistake always looks much larger in the mind of the person who made it than in anyone else’s thinking since he is so near it. Other people are so busy thinking about themselves (and their own mistakes) they won’t dredge up someone else’s error long.
5. Talk about something you really know. Something you know from your heart not through memorisation
6. Practice this speech drill either on your own or with someone – Choose a favourite leisure activity (your most active one.) Tell and show an imaginary audience how to take part in it. Do this with much pep. Place zip, spirit, and sparkle into your tones. Let your feelings show in your face, eyes and body. Overdo it! Feel that people must share your leisure activity, not tomorrow or next week, but as you talk about it. Do this again and again.
7. By the book arrange and practice your speech – know your subject intimately and practice as often as you can in front of the mirror, in front of friends. If doable run through the speech at the place where you are to give the speech.
8. Visualization. Envision delivering your speech successfully as often as doable with intensity and passion.
Public speaking edginess is something that can be overcome by all. It is a skill that is in the reach of anyone. Through a excellent attitude, practice and preparation it is doable for all to become dexterous speakers
Edward Hope is editor and publisher of the recently unhindered ebook “The Art of Fantastic Conversation.” To claim your free preview visit http://selfconfidentspeaking.com
Author: Edward Hope
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