Fears that Drive Reactions: The Wholistic Perception

When your hot buttons are pushed, it triggers an early emotional reaction which is fueled by your fears and influenced by your perceptual style: Audio, Feeler, Visual and Wholistic.
For occasion, the first emotion that Audios feel is rage when they reckon someone is trying to hegemony them. Maintaining private hegemony is of utmost importance to them.

For Feelers, their early reaction is ire since they feel unappreciated for all they’ve done for you. Not being taken for contracted and your showing that you appreciate their thoughtfulness are of utmost importance to them.

The first emotion Visuals feel is frustration when they can’t get you to see their reasons for doing things in a structured, step-by-step make. Perfectionism, or having high values as they see them, is of utmost importance to them.

For each of the perceptual styles, there are four major fears that stimulate the immediate emotion. The early reaction Wholistics feel is rage. This condition is devoted to the fears that stimulate Wholistics’ reactions.

Dread: Wholistics are worried of not being given a chance to excel. Wholistics are born with the feeling that they are destined for excellence. Consequently they somehow know if given the chance, they can rise to the occasion.

Reaction stimulated by the dread: They can see the undeviating distance between two points, so may feel rage when others don’t want to follow their sanction on how to do something more efficiently. They feel shackled by those who pull back since they want to do something their own way rather than the simpler way that he could prove is quicker and simpler, if given the chance.

Dread: Wholistics are worried of life passing them by before they show the world what they are capable of being/doing. They want the chance to try new things, to reckon outside the box, to be a risk taker.

Reaction stimulated by the dread: If they expected others to open doors for them rather than pursuing their dreams or if they were passed over for promotions or opportunities, Wholistics may become bitter. They make excuses by blaming others for losing their dreams. Though, the excuses don’t soften the disillusionment they have in themselves.

Dread: Wholistics are worried of failure and not success their full potential. They want to leave a legacy, not an obituary that reads “He existed for 82 years and died.”

Reaction stimulated by the dread: Wholistics are risk takers when they have confidence in themselves. But if they have low self-esteem since they perceive that people do not value their thoughts/feelings/beliefs, they become cynical and give up on trying whatever thing new: “Why bother, nobody cares about what I reckon or do anyway.”

Dread: Wholistics are worried of restrictions. They want to be free to go with the flow, be spontaneous. They don’t want to be tied down. They like work environments where they are encouraged to be leaders and try new thoughts.

Reaction stimulated by the dread: They don’t like to feel hemmed in by unreasonable hassle or expectations that they consider a waste of time. If management does not appreciate initiative or innovation, they might quit their jobs or just place in their time doing what is plainly expected of them. They can become negative and temperamental.

Charles Finn shows us in his poem, Please Hear What I’m Not Saying, that we all wear masks to hide our fears. (His poem is printed with consent in Stop When You See Red.) Wholistics are the most adaptable of the four styles. This is why they are so adept at switching masks. They are chameleons, quickly varying masks as needed for the moment.

How can you help Wholistics remove their masks? The masks allow them to place on a persona of daring, which hides the desperate feeling that they’ve failed to reach their full potential and will never amount to whatever thing. By long-suffering them as they are and cheering them that it’s never too late to be all they are capable of being, the masks will fall one by one. Your faith in them will renew their faith in themselves.

Your fears will dissipate if you believe in yourself and know that you are here on Earth for a reason. At times you may reach for your masks to provide a temporary retreat. Though, when you let go of discouragement by pluckily facing your fears, the masks will split up. Your life will be more meaningful and rewarding since you will be in hegemony rather than your fears controlling you.

Carol Welsh, M.S,. is the author of “Stop When You See Red.” She has over 25 years of encounter as a speaker and is a normal guest on talk shows. Her Web site is http://www.stopred.com She can be contacted at carolwelsh@stopred.com

Author: Carol Welsh
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